Does my friend have the best interest of me and my marriage at heart? I won't live with the uncertainty and the anxiety and the divided loyalties. In my opinion, it's simply foolish to disregard the strong association between opposite-sex friendships in marriage and infidelity.
It takes a strong person to stand by their values and to insist that there be no opposite-sex friendships within marriage.
They had aligned values, hopes, dreams and expectations of the other and of the relationship. After logging in you can close it and return to this page. Nicholas Hellen, Social Affairs Editor.
It begins This kind of opposite-sex friend may come across as innocent, but is drawn to someone who is already "taken" and can be very manipulative and aggressive in their pursuit of this person. Not at all, but if you have opposite sex friendships, there are some questions that you should ask yourself and discuss with your spouse.
Some people don't agree with my stance that opposite-sex friendships should not exist within marriage. Some people will say that they've always had opposite-sex friendships and that shouldn't change just because they get married. You and your mate can reconnect and establish intimacy in your marriage, but you have to be intentional about it.
Obviously, our marriage is the most precious relationship to protect. And friend of the opposite sex who meets your emotional needs, especially if they meet these needs better than your spouse does. Of course, we all need close friendships outside of our marriage; however, there are plenty of people of our own gender to befriend.